Chapter 9 - Like the Angels?  Chastity, Celibacy, and Love

• The author addresses the old stereotype of the cold and
bitter priest or nun (p. 217). Can you think of examples
to the contrary? Do you know friends or family members—
widows or widowers, unmarried men or women—
who are single and celibate? How do they love?
 

• “Chastity is about love,” Fr. Martin says, and suggests
that even people in committed relationships can learn
about “freedom” in love. How can this freedom help you
love more deeply and honestly?
 

• Consider Fr. Martin’s suggestions under “How Can I
Love Chastely?” (p. 227). Which ones do you feel that
you are already living? Which ones might you like to put
into action?

Chapter 10 - More by Deeds Than by Words: Friendship & Love

The Jesuit way of life emphasizes an underappreciated
part of the spiritual life: friendship. How have your
friends been blessings in your life, and how have they
moved you closer to God?
 
• Ignatius’s “Presupposition” (pp. 234–236) means giving
people the benefit of the doubt. When have you found
that approach rewarding?
 
• “One of the best gifts to give a friend is freedom,” writes
Fr. Martin (p. 243). What does that mean for you?
Where might you be called to give your friends more
freedom?
 
• Consider “Some Barriers to Healthy Friendship”
(pp. 246–248) and “Healthy Friendships” (pp. 259–263).
Have these recommendations shed light on any of your
relationships?